Questions, comments & validations for connection and conversation
Combined with your full wholehearted attention the questions below may help you to connect with your child at a deeper level.
Tell me more …
What was that like?
I’m so pleased you’re telling me these things.
What happened next?
How did you feel?
What did you need?
That sounds really scary & hard. Was it?
So you’re saying “………………………..” have I got that right?
Help me understand...
What do you mean?
What would you like to do about this?
Is there any way you would like me to help you?
It can also be helpful to do something fun together to reinforce or build connection and trust. Spending quality time together can improve the chances of a child feeling safe to open up about anything that is going on for them.